This post doesn't really go with anything else that I've posted, but its something that is worth addressing.
Over the past few days, or weeks even, there has been so many stories come up about different youtube personalities and some mistakes they have made involving relationships and manipulation and in some cases, coercion and assault.
I'm not even going to bother going into detail about who was involved and the details on what exactly happened because it's not my place to, but I will address the concept of consent, just incase it helps anybody who might stumble across this post.
Consent. To be able to engage in any form of sexual activity, you MUST have consent from both people involved. Obviously, yourself... do you want this to happen? Then, the person you are with. Here's a few things people are getting confused with: If somebody literally says the word 'no'. That means stop. They haven't agreed to having any sexual contact with you by any means and by going against their wishes and doing it anyway, in the eyes of the law, that's sexual assault, and there will be serious consequences. If a person doesn't say no, but is indicating in any way that he or she does not want to be involved in this, whether that be saying other things like "I don't want to'" or "Stop" or anything else that isn't YES, or by a lack of involvement and not really doing anything, that is just like saying NO. You DO NOT just have to say the word itself for it to mean anything.
Just because a person has said yes to you in the past, however recent, doesn't they have given consent. They must give consent every single time.
The legal age to have sex in the United Kingdom is 16+. Therefore, if a person is any younger than 16, in the eyes of the law, they are not above the age of consent, and therefore it is illegal. Whether a mutual agreement has been met or not.
Similarly, if a person is physically incapable of making informed decisions themselves and are actually unable to give consent, whether that be because of their age, any form of health issues or because they are asleep, having any sexual activity with them will 100% be considered sexual assault.
Think about what you're doing before you do it. Make sure the person you are with has given 100% and is above the legal age.
Be safe.
Here are a few links, giving you more information about what consent is. I'll also include some helplines for anybody who feels they have been involved in anything stated above and they require any help or advice.
BBC- Age of Consent
Literally everything you need to know about consent
Helplines:
RapeCrisis (England and Wales) 0808 802 9999
Samaritans (UK) 08457 90 90 90 (IRE) 1850 60 90 90
You can also visit http://www.rainn.org which is an organisation dealing with rape and abuse
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