Anxiety
Bleugh, even the word makes me feel ill.
Like many, many people out there, I suffer from anxiety and panic attacks. This post is mainly to tell my stories about things that have happened to me and how I suffer with it and also some advice to people who need it.
I've never actually been diagnosed with anxiety by a doctor but I have all the signs to say I have it and when mentioned to doctors, they basically just agreed with me.
I'm just speaking for myself here and the experience I've had, but I have found that doctors/GPs are completely useless when it comes to helping to combat the anxiety I have. I've been countless times and so many appointments i've been faced with the same question:
"So… what do you want me to do about it?"
That's not exactly what you want to hear when you've been kept up all night worrying about silly things and having panic attacks around the clock. So many times I've been given a list of relaxation exercises. That may well help some people so I'm really not ruling it out, but I did have a go and the exercises just didn't seem to work in any way. The only time I ever got close to receiving some kind of medication for it, there were still obstacles in the way. Personally, I don't like the idea of taking pills to help me calm down or to help with my anxiety, but if its safe and proven to ease it even just a little bit I was more than happy to give it a go. I was offered something called "Beater Blockers" but because I've suffered with Asthma, I wasn't able to take them. I was also offered something else but then the doctor said he would rather not give them to me as young people tend to get addicted to them. That in itself put me off anyway.
I take Calms sometimes but I don't really think it doesn't anything, I think its more of a placebo effect. If I take something and I think it's working it will work for me. But other than that I continue to live with it and try to get by.
Sometimes there's reason for me to be anxious and nervous. An exam, an interview, money worries, going back to uni… But sometimes there seems to be no reason at all. It just comes from nowhere. I feel like there's a weight on my chest and shoulders and I can't stop worrying and feeling nervous. I think it's a subconscious thing.
Sometimes it just seems like the most ridiculous reason to feel anxious. Right now, as I write this, I have to go back to uni tomorrow, for an exam the next day. The thought of the exam is worrying me, but most of all, the idea of getting on a coach and then a taxi to my flat on my own is freaking me out. As well as that, it's stressing me out that I don't have a lot of money because my student loan is ridiculous and there is barely any food in my flat. To someone who doesn't have anxiety, that might seem really irrational and silly, but it's been on my mind for days now.
A lot of people don't understand. If you have anxiety, you'll probably agree with me. People don't understand why you're always nervous or why silly things make you anxious or why you're sad and nervous for what seems like no reason. I get it.
To cope with it, you need to have patience with yourself and with the people close to you. So many times i've had arguments because I lose my temper when people don't understand why I feel the way I do. But… it's understandable because they have no experience with anxiety so they won't know how to deal with it. Rather than losing your temper, try to explain exactly how you feel and try to understand yourself why you feel the way you do. Ask yourself has something triggered it? There's not always a reason. Explain that sometimes, a thought that has stayed with you, maybe in your sub conscience, is bugging you and it makes you nervous to think about. Try to do activities to take your mind of it. Clean, play some music, see friends. I find that my anxiety is at its best when I'm with my boyfriend because that's when I feel most relaxed. So if I can't see him, I tend to just try to talk to him and tell him how I feel.
It's hard but you can live with it. I'm still here.